Hello

Hi, I’m Paul. I’ve been writing for a couple of years now, not because I planned to, but because it helps me get my thoughts out and make sense of what’s going on upstairs (which is usually… a lot).

I write the way I speak. Open, conversational, sometimes rambling, often with a point at the end (promise). It started as a way to figure myself out. I’d write, then read it back, and suddenly it all made more sense. Over time, I realised other people were reading too, who felt the same but didn’t have the words yet. If I can help someone feel seen or a bit less alone, I’m all in.

I’ve got ADHD, and while it’s not on paper, there’s probably some autism sprinkled in there too. Let’s call it unofficial seasoning. I see the world sideways sometimes, feel everything at full volume, and notice things that other people walk past. It’s exhausting and brilliant in equal measure.

I’ve got two daughters. My eldest is AuDHD—sharp as anything, emotionally fierce, and endlessly curious. She keeps me honest. My youngest? Not neurodivergent, just… a second child with absolute chaos energy. Imagine a tiny comedian with no filter and a strong opinion on snacks. That’s her.

By day, I’ll be the head of physical security. By night, I write, initially for our company’s SharePoint, where I’d post blogs about parenting, mental health, neurodiversity, and all the stuff people usually keep to themselves. People started sharing them. Quietly messaging me. Telling me they needed it. So now I’m here, building this space beyond work, hoping the right words land with the right people.

If you’re a fellow overthinker, a tired parent, or just a human trying to figure life out, welcome. You’re in good company.

My Story

I’m Paul, my dad, a security leader and writer, and I'm very much a work-in-progress human.

If you ask what I do, I’ll probably tell you I run global physical security for a major tech company. And that’s true. But the more profound answer? I try to keep people safe—in buildings, in life, and sometimes, in their own minds.

I have ADHD, and while it’s not diagnosed, I reckon there’s some autism in the mix too. That’s not something I hide from—it’s just a part of how I move through the world. My brain doesn’t do stillness. It notices everything, feels too much, and loops around on the most minor details. That can be frustrating, but it also means I’ve got a deep well of empathy and an eye for things that most people miss. That’s probably why I ended up in security—keeping people safe in ways they never consider.

Parenting them has pushed me to better understand myself. To find a better language. To slow down and see the world from different angles. It’s why I started writing.

Writing, for me, started as a way to process. I’d spill my thoughts out just to survive the day, then read them back and realise: oh... that’s how I feel. Over time, those personal notes turned into blogs. I began sharing them internally at work—first tentatively, then with more confidence. The responses surprised me. People saw themselves in what I wrote, and quiet messages came in. "Thanks, I needed that." "I thought I was the only one."

So I kept going. Not because I have the answers but because I know how powerful it is to feel seen. My blogs cover neurodiversity, parenting, mental health, grief, fear, small wins, big feelings—and sometimes the sheer madness of trying to stay afloat in a noisy world.

I write in different voices depending on what the moment needs. Sometimes I’m the funny dad telling stories from the trenches. Sometimes I’m the grounded voice offering calm in the storm. And sometimes, I’m a professional, speaking from lived experience about how security, leadership, and empathy intersect.

That’s what this space is for. To keep sharing. To connect with others who get it—or who want to. Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: when you tell the truth, people listen. When you speak from the heart, people feel less alone.

This is my story. Still messy, still evolving, but fully mine. And if it helps you feel a little more understood—then it’s doing exactly what it’s meant to.

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